HOME TOWN VISIT,GETTING CLOSURE AND SIX THINGS I NEED TO PRACTICE

Hello my georgous people.I know i know its been a little while. But i am here with a heart filled with warmth,as i write this i am feeling like i am writting from overseas away from home yet i am just a number of kilometers away,lol.Nevertheless,home is where our roots lie,my roots lie in a small town,Capital of North-Western Province of Zambia called Solwezi.Kaonde (My first language) is the largest tribe in Solwezi but also has large numbers of Lunda and Luvale. Solwezi is known for its main large industry of copper mining , and we the locals refer to the town in our native as "Kyalo kya mali" (meaning the world of money).

Its been over a year since I lost the most dear special woman in my life,my mother. After she went to be with the lord I have never gone back home as i was consumed in fear of pain of the empty space. Can home really be home when a loved one is gone? Noo! Mourning is not start to finish,and death ofcourse can never be forgotten because love never dies , but after sitting all alone in the rooms where i sat ,charted and laughed with her and after unveiling her tombstone,i had to swallow that bitter pill all in and atleast i can say I got some closure.I faced the fear of coming to Solwezi and i am over it.Little lesson learnt:
> TO STOP FEAR YOU HAVE TO GO THROUGHT IT NOT AROUND IT.

On a lighter note,is there a greater moment than a moment you get to spend bonding with family? I dont think so,friendships are important but family is forever.Talk of going down old funny memory lane and creating new ones,the laughter shared,the food & drinks and ofcourse the unnecessary arguments.I love family bonding also because you get to really communicate, you get that quality time to know what others are upto and learn more about one another.I appreciate my husband for letting me spend this much time home away from home because it has also made me realise how much more i need to be intouch with loved ones,personally i am terrible with communication but i am seeing a change hence forth,not only with family but friends/people who matter too.

Having said all the above i have listed  six (6) helpful practices i will live by to help me enhence my communication, please let me know which ones you will try and/or the ones you already use that have helped you keep intouch with loved ones.

1.)  Make communication a habit.
Set ten minutes a day specifically to communicate be it by text,social media,emails or phone calls.If you can dedicate more time the better.

2.) Be active in family groups/social media.
Whatsapp family groups are the easiest to keep intouch with so many people at the sametime.If you are not already in one, be the one to create it for your family.With platforms like facebook,respond to posts that you can relate to or  those that make you smile.

3.) Be the first to break the silence.
Usually we have the "I reached out last time" attitude.stop counting who communicated last.

4.) Set birthday reminders.
Nothing feels good like being remembered on your special day.Last year i forgot almost all birthdays ,who does that? We all need each other and we all need people to make us feel special,how about making  someone feel extra special by a simple happy birthday message.

5.) Attend events you are invited to.
Try to make time out of busy schedules to make it to events you are invitated to,if you have sincere reasons not to make it let them know on time

6.) Visit whenever possible
I am the laziest human being i know when it comes to leaving home and going to visit but i will do better.If you will do this too just remember to let people know you will be visiting in  advance.Not everyone will appreciate an unannounced visit.

So guys these are somethings i will try to live by.Hope you try them too if you are not already,remember to go back to your roots whenever you can.In Kaonde we say "Kwenu kwenu" ( meaning your routes are your routes nomatter where you go).And dont forget to face all your fears today.Hope this read was useful.


Cheers!!